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Tips to Overcome Our Perfectionism This Summer

Tips to Overcome Our Perfectionism This Summer

Last night I heard a great sermon on “creators, choosers and consumers” and how at any given time of our life we can be one of these types of people. It was thought provoking!

This sermon led me to think about Covey’s “Circle of Control Model” and perfectionism.

Covey says we should focus on what we can do and what we can influence. That concept really helps with perfectionism. Read on for more thoughts on how to stop perfectionism:

I once went to a meeting where some local women professionals discussed perfectionism and how it affects our lives at work and at home.

Some of us were affected at work, others at home, some both. Some of us also had perfectionist partners and we talked about how that hurt our relationships and our family life. It was a great evening of sharing, mostly because we didn’t stop at the negative, but looked for solutions.

Here were some of the solutions we came up with:

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Starting a business, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJuly 24, 2023Jehle Coachingperfectionist, perfectionism, tips, circle of controlComment

Summer Break? Take one!

Summer Break? Take one!

Got time for holidays? Or has work got all your time? Take a break off from work before work breaks you!

Skipping your 2023 vacation because you have too much to do?

I once read an article about how someone was guilted by her boss into not taking her vacation time. In the end the stress from work took its toll and, no, people didn’t get burned-out. The company went under. No joke.

Business Coaching, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJuly 18, 2023Jehle Coaching (and Supervision)vacation, Holidays, Rest and Relaxation, R&R, Healthy Work, healthy, health, productive, SuccessComment

Midsummer reflection and decision-making

Midsummer reflection and decision-making

Reflection Check-up for midsummer, including decision-making.

It is after midsummer and perhaps you and I should take some time for a reflective check-up. It is important to regularly reflect upon our goals and check our progress to make changes and keep on your chosen course.

First you must ask yourself questions.

Ask yourself

Business Coaching, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJuly 4, 2023Jehle Coaching (& Supervision)decisions, decision-making, summer success, holiday decision, ReflectionComment

Ethical guidelines in coaching - what are my no-go's

Ethical guidelines in coaching - what are my no-go's

I recently read The Ethical Coaches’ Handbook and it has given me some thoughts and some activities to do, such as organizing a “will” for my practice. It is full of ideas and helpful hints for me as a coach and supervisor.

I highly recommend this book for coaches and supervisors - as not only something to borrow and read quickly, but to have on one’s office bookshelf, not to gather dust, but to use and return to and to help us “helpers” ponder what is ethical, what is in the gray zone, and what is a no-go for coaches.

This makes me think about some of my own no-go’s as a certified coach and supervisor.

One big one is “taking advantage” of a client. This has a few aspects to it.

Business Coaching, Coaching, Growth, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJune 27, 2023Jehle Coachingethics, coaching, Supervision, ethical practice, no-go'sComment

How do I act on what I know?

How do I act on what I know?

How can I do what I teach and “preach”? As a coach and supervisor and as an educator with a Master’s in teaching, I “know” a lot. But do I practice what I know and how do I do it? What about you? Is there a disconnect between what you do and what you know (you should do)?

Last week at my Inter-Vision group discussed this topic, and we reminded ourselves that maturity is a life-long process. Hopefully, we are all better than yesterday and tomorrow we will be better still. We know a lot but practicing it is not always easy.

Let’s start with emotional regulation and integrity.

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJune 19, 2023Jehle Coaching (& Supervision)practice what I preach, coaching qualities, Emotional regulation, integrity, PPF ModelComment

Summer Success

Summer Success

Summer is a lovely time of great weather, outdoor and water sports, vacations, music festivals, barbeques, weddings, soirées and general fun. But one can get distracted in the middle of the fun and forget our business – and life goals. We need an easy way to keep on track when we are trying to focus.

Business Coaching, Coaching, Goals, Plans, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJune 12, 2023Jehle CoachingSummertime, working in the summer, Success, summer successComment

Resilience and emotions

Resilience and emotions

How can I manage my emotions?

Do my emotions have to do with resilience?

The short answer is yes. For better resilience, we need to manage our emotions better.

First we have to notice and name our emotions. With that awareness you are already half way there to better resilience.

KEEP AN EMOTION “Log Book”

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJune 7, 2023Jehle Coachingresilience, emotional agility, Emotional regulation, emotional triggersComment

Lower stress with the H.I.T. List method

Lower stress with the H.I.T. List method

A while ago I got together with coaching and supervision colleagues and I was reminded of one of my favorite (negotiation and decision) interventions: The H.I.T. list, where you have three questions:

· What is your Have-to-have?

· What do your Intend (or would like) to have? And

· What can (or must) you Trade ( or give up) to get your Have-to-have (for sure) and possibly your Intend to have?

When you think about this, then you can decide what is not on these lists, and discard - or delegate.

Reframe (shift) your thinking for resilience

Reframe (shift) your thinking for resilience

For a better mindset – shift your focus and shift the viewpoint. This will cause you to be more resilient.

Shift: what I see and how I see it.

Doing the hard thingis

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleMay 8, 2023Jehle Coachingreframe, shift, good thinking, Reflection, resilienceComment

Attitude and Assumption Check-up

Attitude and Assumption Check-up

Attitude is (almost) everything. And, of course our thoughts and attitude are quite intertwined.

Are you a quitter? I bet you aren’t! But negative assumptions and attitudes can creep into your working life quite easily because negativity is catchy!

So, have you been thinking any of the following lately:

· I’m too stressed. Stress is getting me down.

· There is no way to move forward.

· I can’t get any new clients, let alone keep the old ones.

· My products are so-so…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleApril 17, 2023Jehle Coachingstress relief, positive attitude, assumptionsComment

Keep from burning out (how to)

Keep from burning out (how to)

You can’t slow down, maybe.

You are always working.

When are you moving towards burnout and how can you get help?

Set work boundaries but try to find (more) meaning at work, especially the hours and days. Take days off. Take holidays.

Meet with friends and family (that give you energy).

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleApril 10, 2023Jehle CoachingAvoid burnout, burnout, PPFs, Healthy Work, healthComment

Relationships and hormones (and stress reduction)

Relationships and hormones (and stress reduction)

There is a lot that can be done for stress and burnout.

One thing stands ahead of many others, though.

When you feel stressed or are heading for burnout fast, go find a friend or two and talk about it.

What does this do? It created oxytocin.

Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleApril 3, 2023Jehle Coachingstress relief, Avoid burnout, relationshipsComment

Relationships Build Resilience

Relationships Build Resilience

One of the big parts of stress is something that you can control: how resilient are you?

Start with your relationships, for one!

Research has shown that mutually supportive relationships are key to stress reduction and resilience.

What does a good relationship look like? How do I develop and grow in my relationships?

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleMarch 20, 2023Jehle Coachingresilience, stress relief, relationship helpsComment

What kind(s) of stress do you have? What can you do?

What kind(s) of stress do you have? What can you do?

Long Term (or ongoing) Stress is the most difficult for us to have as it affects our bodies and minds (& spirits) more.

I have a few clients with long term stress and they are suffering.

Here are some symptoms:

· You are always tired and rather forgetful

· You are irritable and maybe self-medicate to stay afloat

· You have physical symptoms such as headaches, body aches, stiff muscles (especially in the neck, shoulders and jaw), stomach and other digestive problems, and sexual dysfunction

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleMarch 6, 2023Jehle Coachingstress, resilience, Stress-reduction, long-term stressComment

Stress is often what you do with it: good or bad responses

Stress is often what you do with it: good or bad responses

So, what is there to do when under stress:

· Manage Stress like it’s like diabetes (Type 2)- eat and exercise in a healthy manner.

· Get enough rest and relaxation and have good sleep hygiene.

· Talk about it and enjoy your relationships with friends and family.

· See stress in a positive way (reframe it).

· Pause before acting and reflect!

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Supervision, SuccessPatricia JehleFebruary 27, 2023Jehle Coachingstress response, brain farts, burnout, ReflectComment

That in-between (liminal) space

That in-between (liminal) space

That in-between time

It’s hard

Liminal Space is what it is often called

“The word "liminal" comes from the Latin word “limen,” which means threshold. To be in a liminal space means to be on the precipice of something new but not quite there yet. You can be in a liminal space physically, emotionally, or metaphorically. Being in a liminal space can be incredibly uncomfortable for most people.“ – Verywellmind

There are physical liminal spaces: waiting rooms at the doctor’s office, airport terminals, airplanes in flight, hallways, bridges, in the car driving somewhere, and doorways…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleFebruary 20, 2023Jehle Coachingliminal space, waiting, changeComment

You need oxygen to survive and thrive

You need oxygen to survive and thrive

There are many ways to prevent burnout and to increase resilience. Increasing resilience.

Usually it starts with a wee “no”.

Maybe you even still must “do it”, but hopefully your boss or co-worker has finally heard that you actually do not want to do something. Maybe they will think a second time before just assuming you will do that thing.

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Reflection, Starting a business, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleFebruary 13, 2023Jehle CoachingSuccess, burnout, Resilience, take a break, self-careComment

Get you to-do list done - with a question word

Get you to-do list done - with a question word

Checking off that to-do list fast enough?

I am chugging through my list, but must remember the BIGGER things, too.

Like making time for work (and personal) reflection.

Like preparing for a talk on connection, communication (and, of course, conflict)

Like writing (and reading)

Like preparing next year’s school lectures

How do you plan on getting things done?

Do you make time for reflection – at the end of the day, at the end/beginning of the week, at the end of the month and year?

But in the end, keeping one word in my “view” at all times, really helps me get things done - maybe it will help you, too!

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Reflection, Success, Supervision, Starting a businessPatricia JehleFebruary 6, 2023Jehle Coachingto do list, Success, ReflectionComment

Mind changing

Mind changing

Do you want to change someone’s mind?

I am thinking about just that…

What do they want is important

BUT why they want it is more important.

Not only do you need to know your own whys, but finding out their whys is very likely a key to success

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Starting a business, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJanuary 30, 2023Jehle CoachingSuccess, Mindset, Change someone's mind, mind changing, negotiationComment

Be a winner and be positive - especially with regards to others

Be a winner and be positive - especially with regards to others

…“tough-minded optimism” – is a blend of creativity in ideas, strong convictions about what works and about doing things for the “common good”, and resilience, especially when it comes to the need for change. To quote, “The future is not shaped by people who don’t really believe in the future,”…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJanuary 24, 2023Jehle Coachingoptimism, success, tribalism, we-thinking, allaboutusComment