Are you in need of a coach, but wonder if they can really help you?
Or have you had a coach but been disappointed by the price and the results?
Many of you look for a coach when there is some sort of crisis and maybe you are rash in choosing a “package” or adding on after a freebie coach bot…
As usual, “Buyer, be aware!”
What is your need and what do you want to accomplish is the first thing.
Read MoreHappy Holidays! Here is part of the Jehle Coaching Annual Report: I am looking for two (maximum) MORE/NEW clients in February 2024 (and some additional training days here and there)
At this very moment in December and through January, I am full-up and cannot take any new clients. But as of the end of January I will have more space as I only each one class, so very soon I will be able to make space and time for new clients.
Read MoreThe Sky is the limit!
Here’s a little thinking exercise to keep that positive emotion going more:
· First, think about how you are feeling- start with the joy or hope
· Then think about where you feel the feeling in your body.
· How does that feeling feel in your body?
Read MoreKeep on going! You and your startup matters!
Startups are hard, but worth it!
I can tell you from my own experience, so here are some ideas to keep your startup business sustainable.
Who are YOUR people? What is YOUR business? Where is the MONEY going to come from? Who is on YOUR team? What will sustain YOUR ups and downs? Consider getting a coach.
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Do what you can, and then turn your focus away from what you can’t. It helps with worry, which is not at all helpful.
This works for most instances, especially for work. You can also think about how to work when things seem stuck…
Read MoreLast night I heard a great sermon on “creators, choosers and consumers” and how at any given time of our life we can be one of these types of people. It was thought provoking!
This sermon led me to think about Covey’s “Circle of Control Model” and perfectionism.
Covey says we should focus on what we can do and what we can influence. That concept really helps with perfectionism. Read on for more thoughts on how to stop perfectionism:
I once went to a meeting where some local women professionals discussed perfectionism and how it affects our lives at work and at home.
Some of us were affected at work, others at home, some both. Some of us also had perfectionist partners and we talked about how that hurt our relationships and our family life. It was a great evening of sharing, mostly because we didn’t stop at the negative, but looked for solutions.
Here were some of the solutions we came up with:
Read MoreA while ago I got together with coaching and supervision colleagues and I was reminded of one of my favorite (negotiation and decision) interventions: The H.I.T. list, where you have three questions:
· What is your Have-to-have?
· What do your Intend (or would like) to have? And
· What can (or must) you Trade ( or give up) to get your Have-to-have (for sure) and possibly your Intend to have?
When you think about this, then you can decide what is not on these lists, and discard - or delegate.
Read Morehow do I know what I can change in a stressful situation - what I have to deal with - and live through?
Let’s begin with some things you can do, even when the stress is not ongoing.
First, when you see that the programme is too full or is getting too full for your liking, try to, if you possibly can, put in time buffers. Do it ahead of time. Say you see that the next few weeks are full of ”heavy duty” activity, then do not plan something in the evenings, if possible – even if it is a fun activity and plan only fun activities (and one per day) at the weekend. This will help keep your brain and body from being on overdrive.
Learn to say no and feel good about it.
I am very serious about that.
Read MoreThere are many ways to prevent burnout and to increase resilience. Increasing resilience.
Usually it starts with a wee “no”.
Maybe you even still must “do it”, but hopefully your boss or co-worker has finally heard that you actually do not want to do something. Maybe they will think a second time before just assuming you will do that thing.
Read MoreChecking off that to-do list fast enough?
I am chugging through my list, but must remember the BIGGER things, too.
Like making time for work (and personal) reflection.
Like preparing for a talk on connection, communication (and, of course, conflict)
Like writing (and reading)
Like preparing next year’s school lectures
How do you plan on getting things done?
Do you make time for reflection – at the end of the day, at the end/beginning of the week, at the end of the month and year?
But in the end, keeping one word in my “view” at all times, really helps me get things done - maybe it will help you, too!
Read MoreDo you want to change someone’s mind?
I am thinking about just that…
What do they want is important
BUT why they want it is more important.
Not only do you need to know your own whys, but finding out their whys is very likely a key to success
Read MoreHow are you moving forward this and next week?
This is, most likely, your last push before the holiday crush and then it’s the holiday break.
So, how do you decide what is most important, next important, etc.
Do you know which activities bring you the most clients/customers, or financial turnover? Do those activities.
The rest of your to-dos can fall away till January.
Make sure your WHY is in the decision-making process, too.
Read MoreShiny objects and Rabbit holes – “fun” distractions that keep you from the Main Thing
Sometimes in a workday, especially for those who have the double-sided coin of flexible choices of what to do when, we are easily distracted by things that draw us from our “One Thing” or “Best thing”.
A person wrote me today and said that his answer to the question ofwhat is an Entrepreneur's "Achille's Heel"“I think it's loosing focus and spending too much time on things which are not relevant for customers. “
Read MoreThe Art of knowing when to keep on going and when to quit.
OR maybe you pivot (more next time).
Business is a lot like gambling, and oh-so-long-ago a famous country western singer, Kenny Rogers, wrote a song called “The Gambler”- I have known it since my childhood. One of the phrases is “You’ve got to know when to hold them (cards)… know when to fold them.” When to keep playing the hand you’ve been dealt and when to quit.
When do you continue on your chosen path and when do you change and do something new? That’s the question.
Read MoreLast week e looked at a formula: when you put what you want + what you need + what you can do (or learn to do) + what your future clients/customers need + what is right and good = a winning idea!
This week we are looking at customer (clients) needs. (you need to solve their problems).
Read MoreWhat you do and say is important – for life, for your company, and work
It’s amazing how important it is to be what you (and your company, your company’s product, and its ramifications in life) present yourself as.
As a client of mine says, “It you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember what you have said. It makes life much easier.” She is so spot-on! I’ve been quoting her ever since she said this in a group supervision I was leading. I used the quote this past weekend with a friend who wants to encourage her son to be transparent at work.
I thought about it when a friend shared some of the struggles, she had been having with her (not truthful) spouse and how most everything comes down to being who you say you are. The inside and the outside match- no hiding.
I thought about it when sharing my own struggles with a few friends regarding the upcoming months and what is “on my plate” for work and life, and other things that cause me to pause and take note.
Be honest, I told myself, and I did. It’s about our integrity, one of the points on Goleman’s EQ list.
Integrity
If you are a person of integrity you are like this…
Read MoreThe past few blogs have been all about change. This week is the “can do” week. Next week is “off” because I am again, on holiday. Then it’s back in the saddle for me.
What can you do? (Step 2)
Add that to what you want and what you need - and you have a great start!
Read MoreWhat do you want, really?
Last weekend I wrote about new endeavors.
Do you need or want to start something new? There are some steps involved in the process, even before it becomes “a THING”. To be successful, I suggested some ideas.
The first and most difficult part is to ask yourself this: What do you want?
The second question is what do you need?
These are two different questions and, depending on the circumstances, what you need will help determine what you want.
Read MoreDo you need or want to start something new? There are some steps involved in the process, even before it becomes “a THING”. To be successful, I suggest the following steps and ideas.
Read MoreWe all need to keep “fresh” and grow.
But not every attempt at a change is successful. Some are, of course, failures.
Failure is the next step towards success. Those “blips” I consider “learning events” when we take the time to reflect and learn from the situation.
You can change, too.
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