Stress is “fought” best by being resilient.
How resilient are you?
Resilience has a lot of factors, and one is focusing on your strengths (not your weaknesses).
What is your superpower?
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Are you stressed? It is normal and CAN be a good thing!
Stress is a normal part of life and without it you really would not get anything done.
Those deadlines (unless there are too many all at once) are actually helpful.
Even having a visitor over can stress you enough to finally pick up and clean a bit.
Stress can also tell you what is important in your life.
What you value can stress you out – this is important to know!
I have a friend who often says, “I don’t care anymore.” But of course, she does.
The stress you have can point to what you care about (often what you care about most). This a good place to start (and end): reflection! What do you value?
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Resilience is what you need to help prevent burnout. It is a key to thriving, even if you are underwater and the to-do list keeps getting longer.
So, what really helps you get up and keep on going when something happens that is a set-back, whether big or small? What makes you resilient?
You’d be surprised.
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Are you in need of a coach, but wonder if they can really help you?
Or have you had a coach but been disappointed by the price and the results?
Many of you look for a coach when there is some sort of crisis and maybe you are rash in choosing a “package” or adding on after a freebie coach bot…
As usual, “Buyer, be aware!”
What is your need and what do you want to accomplish is the first thing.
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Recently I watched a TEDx talk by Esther van Fenema on limiting our freedom for health and happiness. How do we limit these bad choices we consistently make so we CAN be happier and healthier?
Ms. van Fenema said that four out of 10 cancers are cause by an unhealthy lifestyle (why do we still soke?) and she said that 45% of cardiovascular disease is caused by an unhealthy (sedentary and eating the wrong food) lifestyle.
But how do we change? Is it MIND over matter – yes, AND there is more. I have been reading a few books and neuroscience says that we also must engage our HARE brain for change. That is the fast part that we cannot just think our way into.
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It’s almost February and maybe you feel great about how the year is shaping up. Maybe your goals have been set and you have reached a first milestone. Maybe you have planned your holidays, shopped the sales for the necessities and are sitting ready for a great Lenten season of listening and reflecting.
Or maybe not…
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Happy Holidays! Here is part of the Jehle Coaching Annual Report: I am looking for two (maximum) MORE/NEW clients in February 2024 (and some additional training days here and there)
At this very moment in December and through January, I am full-up and cannot take any new clients. But as of the end of January I will have more space as I only each one class, so very soon I will be able to make space and time for new clients.
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Recently my thoughts have been inundated with elephants- on the internet there is a cute baby elephant chasing birds, for example and my daughter loves it. The metaphors using elephants are also in my face these days, namely eating elephants and elephants in “living rooms”.
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That is what supervision is for. I will address a supervisor and my intervision* group with this, and soon. If you, as a coach or supervisor do not have such reflection outlets, I highly recommend you find some soon! It is important for professionals in the helping business to have a reflective practice.
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The Sky is the limit!
Here’s a little thinking exercise to keep that positive emotion going more:
· First, think about how you are feeling- start with the joy or hope
· Then think about where you feel the feeling in your body.
· How does that feeling feel in your body?
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Keep on going! You and your startup matters!
Startups are hard, but worth it!
I can tell you from my own experience, so here are some ideas to keep your startup business sustainable.
Who are YOUR people? What is YOUR business? Where is the MONEY going to come from? Who is on YOUR team? What will sustain YOUR ups and downs? Consider getting a coach.
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Besides taking care of your body, there are three (plus one) other things we can learn to do more: be grateful, savor the present moment (and be mindful), and have a positive hope for the future. (Those PPFs, again!)
The “plus one” is having a few close relationships.
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I have had several things on the burner, and not much on the back burner, so it has been a juggling process since the beginning of September and it will continue this month, but November looks free-er and I will have time for new clients and different projects.
First, there was theEASCannual general meeting and then the online congressshortly afterwards. I, of course, participated in both as a board member and I alsogave a workshopon resilience, burnout and sustainable work
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A friend asked me for recommendations on Mentoring books las Saturday. I went to my library and pulled out two books I have read… but now I want to focus on recent books I have read for recommendations.
Reading books brings me joy, especially during holidays where I sit and read and read and...
I have read or finished quite a few books this past holiday time in Tenerife and Minnesota(and I am still reading, but at a slower pace), and I want to share some highlights in case you need or wish for something new to read.
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Last night I heard a great sermon on “creators, choosers and consumers” and how at any given time of our life we can be one of these types of people. It was thought provoking!
This sermon led me to think about Covey’s “Circle of Control Model” and perfectionism.
Covey says we should focus on what we can do and what we can influence. That concept really helps with perfectionism. Read on for more thoughts on how to stop perfectionism:
I once went to a meeting where some local women professionals discussed perfectionism and how it affects our lives at work and at home.
Some of us were affected at work, others at home, some both. Some of us also had perfectionist partners and we talked about how that hurt our relationships and our family life. It was a great evening of sharing, mostly because we didn’t stop at the negative, but looked for solutions.
Here were some of the solutions we came up with:
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How can I do what I teach and “preach”? As a coach and supervisor and as an educator with a Master’s in teaching, I “know” a lot. But do I practice what I know and how do I do it? What about you? Is there a disconnect between what you do and what you know (you should do)?
Last week at my Inter-Vision group discussed this topic, and we reminded ourselves that maturity is a life-long process. Hopefully, we are all better than yesterday and tomorrow we will be better still. We know a lot but practicing it is not always easy.
Let’s start with emotional regulation and integrity.
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How can I manage my emotions?
Do my emotions have to do with resilience?
The short answer is yes. For better resilience, we need to manage our emotions better.
First we have to notice and name our emotions. With that awareness you are already half way there to better resilience.
KEEP AN EMOTION “Log Book”
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A while ago I got together with coaching and supervision colleagues and I was reminded of one of my favorite (negotiation and decision) interventions: The H.I.T. list, where you have three questions:
· What is your Have-to-have?
· What do your Intend (or would like) to have? And
· What can (or must) you Trade ( or give up) to get your Have-to-have (for sure) and possibly your Intend to have?
When you think about this, then you can decide what is not on these lists, and discard - or delegate.
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For a better mindset – shift your focus and shift the viewpoint. This will cause you to be more resilient.
Shift: what I see and how I see it.
Doing the hard thingis
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Attitude is (almost) everything. And, of course our thoughts and attitude are quite intertwined.
Are you a quitter? I bet you aren’t! But negative assumptions and attitudes can creep into your working life quite easily because negativity is catchy!
So, have you been thinking any of the following lately:
· I’m too stressed. Stress is getting me down.
· There is no way to move forward.
· I can’t get any new clients, let alone keep the old ones.
· My products are so-so…
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