Jehle Coaching Blog - What I’m thinking and doing (what’s new)…
A recipe for trust
When looking for someone to trust, Donald Miller says we are looking for people to have empathy and authority. You want to “be like Oprah” and have competency like Steve Jobs or whoever is considered competent skills in your field.
I would add two more words to that list of who you can trust: authenticity (you are what you say you are and can do what you say you can do) and integrity (you live what you say you are). One is more outside-oriented and the other is more inside-oriented.
Who do we see? Who do we hear? Who do we believe?
Who do we see? Who do we hear? Who do we believe?
It cannot about ME it is about WE – we cannot be self-serving anymore.; the times are too precarious The time to act is now and – you and I – we must move.
Democracy, Dialogue and Diversity are about the WE.
That was the title of our EASC Conference in Budapest earlier this month and it all is still ruminating in my mind. Each of these words is about we, not me.
Walking our “talk” - reflections on last weekend’s EASC conference in Budapest
Walking the talk is something we try to do and it is quite difficult, for sure. But, as one person said last weekend, we are always being watched, for good or bad. So, being a positive model and a person of integrity for me is part of my “try hard to do” list.
Team Leadership Dos
Sometimes I find the best leadership in my faith tradition and I have recently read a book by Alain Emerson§ that has really helped me and confirmed some of my practices, especially when it comes to Team Leadership.
Here are his suggestions for leading teams, with my “twist” on them.
Why do I work with TCKs, “why Me?”
Last week I wrote about TCKs, and some of their challenges and characteristics. They have (positive and negative) patterns of behavior that other people usually do not have. They have special eyes for certain things that other people do not. But why am I “the best person” for this?
Are you an Adult Third Culture Kid? Maybe you are!
After a mini sabbatical, I am back and writing - and working - again: Here are some things that TCKs have in common:
Mixed Identity: They blend aspects of where they live, where their parents are from, and global nomadic experiences.
Common Backgrounds: Often children of diplomats, irefugees, immigrants, nternational business workers, missionaries, or military personnel.
Global Outlook: Usually open-minded, adaptable, and often multilingual.
Rituals and Reflection (to learn and change)
Learning and Change takes REFLECTION and CONNECTION
Why not take the summer to change through some good Rituals
Reflective times help us to learn and change
Mondays are often a day for me to reflect on the past week, especially when the weekend was somehow included and made it a package, not a bookend. Today, this is one of my tasks: reflect on the past week and learn from it. There is a LOT to reflect on, believe me!
Reflection is key for learning and change.
Maybe you should begin (or end) your week with some reflection
Tell your story (to me)
Stories are important and your stories are very important. I enjoy hearing stories, and maybe you would like to share yours with me.
Part of what I do is listen to your stories and help you make sense of them, for your work, and for your life. I love to listen to and help people with their stories. Behind those stories are dreams, and broken dreams; there are things that cause us to move forward and the stories that hold us back. Making sense of our stories helps us to move forward and develop.
Go ahead and celebrate - what gives me cause and how it develops resilience
Celebrate your wins and the wins of your clients!
This week has been full of reasons to celebrate and so, for once I will brag. Besides positive client acquisition, I passed my Mentoring Supervisor (in German it is “Lehrsupervisor”) certification exam, so now I am a certified coach, supervisor and mentoring supervisor (and spiritual director and supervisor for spiritual direction). I feel grateful and “full”. It is enough for me and I am very satisfied.
AND a client of mine just gave her second (or third, maybe) presentation and this time it was not to do with her job but was something new in a “masterclass” setting. IT went very well and we are both celebrating. Now she is a SPEAKER, too! It is a wonderful skill and can give joy when you can talk about things that light your own fire.
What to do when you are triggered
Are you triggered?
Have you been triggered recently?
What can you do?
Pause. Do not react, do not act back “in kind”.
What did you do?
So… then… do something right away to sooth yourself. AND, if you can, remove yourself from the situation.
Shouts, Tears, and Emotions
There is a time for showing emotions -- and all emotions are okay to show because all emotions are okay. Our emotions are a part of us. Last weekend was a big day of taking pause, remembering, being angry, and perhaps, depending on your circumstances, protesting. Friends and family of mine took part in the No Kings protests, and I thought of them and prayed for them from afar. For me it was a day of hope and anger and prayer.
One of the reactions to “YesterDay” could be anger and frustration because you feel hopeless or that justice has not been served. Another reaction could be fear: fear of friends, family (or yourself) getting arrested. Even tears could be a response: tears of hope and joy over the turnout or tears of remembrance for what once was, a kinder and gentler era. For me, I am frustrated, hopeful and sad all at once. I have shed a lot of tears of late.
Stressed? Burnt out on Life?
So, what are we to do with stress, then, personally?
First and foremost, think of stress as a means of achieving your goal(s) and not as an enemy or what keeps you from success (see last week’s blog) and
second, become more aware, more mindful of yourself, of your situation, and of what your body is doing.
Good communication
Good communication is necessary for success.
In work and life. Part of communication has to do with who we are (integrity) and what we communicate is who we are (authenticity).
This is what I suggest to you for success, and for good communication.
So, what makes good communication?
It’s complicated to communicate, but it IS do-able.
Four Ingredients to developing Trust
Last time I wrote about TRUST and now I am doing a follow up.
It is interesting because three people I know have recently brought up the subject.
What is needed for Trust?
Authenticity Integrity Authority Empathy
When looking for someone to trust, Donald Miller says we are looking for people to have empathy and authority. You want to “be like Oprah” and have competency like Steve Jobs - or whoever is considered competent skills in your field.
Trust in 2026
Trust is something that is needed in business and personal relationships.
Who can you trust?
I don’t know about you, but I have been burned a few times in business and otherwise and now do some vetting before I trust someone or anew partner in business, and even when they have won my trust, it’s still never a “blind” trust, anymore. I keep my eyes wide open. I am still learning how to be less gullible, how about you?
Happy - Almost - Lent (Spring)
It’s almost Lent (which means Spring, actually) and maybe you feel great about how your year is shaping up. Maybe your goals have been set and you have reached a first milestone(s). Maybe you have planned your holidays for the year, shopped the sales for your necessities and are sitting ready for a great Lenten season of listening and reflecting.
Or maybe not.
Maybe you struggle to get the things that are highest priority on the list done and never have time for the more important things (like planning time to rest and reflect, let alone resting and reflecting).
What about trying WOOP to move forward? Build resilience a new way!
I have been focusing on resilience for the last few weeks for obvious reasons, I think. I hope you are benefitting from it! Part of resilience is having the right assumptions and thoughts about <our (the) situation.
So, first challenge your beliefs about what is true- make sure your thoughts are real(istic)
Here 3 questions to re-evaluating your thoughts and assumptions– some alternatives that help for a more accurate way to see life, and that lead to a resilient life try asking yourself about the incident or situation:
We need resilience these days
Resilience is mostly under our control and enables us to thrive in adversity, making us able to make good (quick) decisions in instances of difficulty. It turns victims into survivors (“thrivers”) with a variety of skills.
What are components of resilience?
Hope and Resilience Today!
I has been a difficult month, but…
We CAN make it through the tough times- together!
Do you need some help to survive and possibly thrive in the next few lockdown weeks? Has the news or worse, your personal experiences that I only see on the news, got you stuck? Stressed?
Overwhelmed? News reading or watching stressed out? We can do this together and here are some things that can help:
Realistic expectations, Self-care, Self-regulation, Community, and Self-motivation are key for survival.
Some thoughts on Martin Luther King Jr. Day and being Good and BLM and Reflection
It is Martin Luther King Jr. Day
Time for reflection.
Reflection on Dr. King and what I can do today to make a better world.
Reflect on his dream. How is that dream doing?
I am from Minnesota and recently, even though I have been living in Switzerland for over thirty years, Minnesota has been in my Heart and on my Mind.
Maybe it is on your mind, too. Are the people affected in your heart like mine, too?