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The Jehle Coaching Blog is (finally) BACK! - it is like resurfacing from a scuba dive.

The Jehle Coaching Blog is (finally) BACK! - it is like resurfacing from a scuba dive.

Returning to work from a longer break can be emotionally and even physically difficult, especially if you have really had a mental “break” from your every-day schedule for longer than two weeks.

Returning to work after a longer break can also be something work related, but not every-day such as being on a work training or retreat besides holidays, family time or just R&R in the garden.

Returning to the regular pace of work can feel like you are a deep-sea diver coming to the surface again, facing a foreign world from where you have recently been.

Business Coaching, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleSeptember 4, 2023Jehle CoachingPPFs, resurfacing, back to work, sustainableComment

Tips to Overcome Our Perfectionism This Summer

Tips to Overcome Our Perfectionism This Summer

Last night I heard a great sermon on “creators, choosers and consumers” and how at any given time of our life we can be one of these types of people. It was thought provoking!

This sermon led me to think about Covey’s “Circle of Control Model” and perfectionism.

Covey says we should focus on what we can do and what we can influence. That concept really helps with perfectionism. Read on for more thoughts on how to stop perfectionism:

I once went to a meeting where some local women professionals discussed perfectionism and how it affects our lives at work and at home.

Some of us were affected at work, others at home, some both. Some of us also had perfectionist partners and we talked about how that hurt our relationships and our family life. It was a great evening of sharing, mostly because we didn’t stop at the negative, but looked for solutions.

Here were some of the solutions we came up with:

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Starting a business, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJuly 24, 2023Jehle Coachingperfectionist, perfectionism, tips, circle of controlComment

Summer Break? Take one!

Summer Break? Take one!

Got time for holidays? Or has work got all your time? Take a break off from work before work breaks you!

Skipping your 2023 vacation because you have too much to do?

I once read an article about how someone was guilted by her boss into not taking her vacation time. In the end the stress from work took its toll and, no, people didn’t get burned-out. The company went under. No joke.

Business Coaching, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJuly 18, 2023Jehle Coaching (and Supervision)vacation, Holidays, Rest and Relaxation, R&R, Healthy Work, healthy, health, productive, SuccessComment

Midsummer reflection and decision-making

Midsummer reflection and decision-making

Reflection Check-up for midsummer, including decision-making.

It is after midsummer and perhaps you and I should take some time for a reflective check-up. It is important to regularly reflect upon our goals and check our progress to make changes and keep on your chosen course.

First you must ask yourself questions.

Ask yourself

Business Coaching, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJuly 4, 2023Jehle Coaching (& Supervision)decisions, decision-making, summer success, holiday decision, ReflectionComment

How do I act on what I know?

How do I act on what I know?

How can I do what I teach and “preach”? As a coach and supervisor and as an educator with a Master’s in teaching, I “know” a lot. But do I practice what I know and how do I do it? What about you? Is there a disconnect between what you do and what you know (you should do)?

Last week at my Inter-Vision group discussed this topic, and we reminded ourselves that maturity is a life-long process. Hopefully, we are all better than yesterday and tomorrow we will be better still. We know a lot but practicing it is not always easy.

Let’s start with emotional regulation and integrity.

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJune 19, 2023Jehle Coaching (& Supervision)practice what I preach, coaching qualities, Emotional regulation, integrity, PPF ModelComment

Resilience and emotions

Resilience and emotions

How can I manage my emotions?

Do my emotions have to do with resilience?

The short answer is yes. For better resilience, we need to manage our emotions better.

First we have to notice and name our emotions. With that awareness you are already half way there to better resilience.

KEEP AN EMOTION “Log Book”

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJune 7, 2023Jehle Coachingresilience, emotional agility, Emotional regulation, emotional triggersComment

Lower stress with the H.I.T. List method

Lower stress with the H.I.T. List method

A while ago I got together with coaching and supervision colleagues and I was reminded of one of my favorite (negotiation and decision) interventions: The H.I.T. list, where you have three questions:

· What is your Have-to-have?

· What do your Intend (or would like) to have? And

· What can (or must) you Trade ( or give up) to get your Have-to-have (for sure) and possibly your Intend to have?

When you think about this, then you can decide what is not on these lists, and discard - or delegate.

Reframe (shift) your thinking for resilience

Reframe (shift) your thinking for resilience

For a better mindset – shift your focus and shift the viewpoint. This will cause you to be more resilient.

Shift: what I see and how I see it.

Doing the hard thingis

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleMay 8, 2023Jehle Coachingreframe, shift, good thinking, Reflection, resilienceComment

Attitude and Assumption Check-up

Attitude and Assumption Check-up

Attitude is (almost) everything. And, of course our thoughts and attitude are quite intertwined.

Are you a quitter? I bet you aren’t! But negative assumptions and attitudes can creep into your working life quite easily because negativity is catchy!

So, have you been thinking any of the following lately:

· I’m too stressed. Stress is getting me down.

· There is no way to move forward.

· I can’t get any new clients, let alone keep the old ones.

· My products are so-so…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleApril 17, 2023Jehle Coachingstress relief, positive attitude, assumptionsComment

Keep from burning out (how to)

Keep from burning out (how to)

You can’t slow down, maybe.

You are always working.

When are you moving towards burnout and how can you get help?

Set work boundaries but try to find (more) meaning at work, especially the hours and days. Take days off. Take holidays.

Meet with friends and family (that give you energy).

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleApril 10, 2023Jehle CoachingAvoid burnout, burnout, PPFs, Healthy Work, healthComment

Relationships and hormones (and stress reduction)

Relationships and hormones (and stress reduction)

There is a lot that can be done for stress and burnout.

One thing stands ahead of many others, though.

When you feel stressed or are heading for burnout fast, go find a friend or two and talk about it.

What does this do? It created oxytocin.

Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleApril 3, 2023Jehle Coachingstress relief, Avoid burnout, relationshipsComment

Relationships Build Resilience

Relationships Build Resilience

One of the big parts of stress is something that you can control: how resilient are you?

Start with your relationships, for one!

Research has shown that mutually supportive relationships are key to stress reduction and resilience.

What does a good relationship look like? How do I develop and grow in my relationships?

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleMarch 20, 2023Jehle Coachingresilience, stress relief, relationship helpsComment

Stress is often what you do with it: good or bad responses

Stress is often what you do with it: good or bad responses

So, what is there to do when under stress:

· Manage Stress like it’s like diabetes (Type 2)- eat and exercise in a healthy manner.

· Get enough rest and relaxation and have good sleep hygiene.

· Talk about it and enjoy your relationships with friends and family.

· See stress in a positive way (reframe it).

· Pause before acting and reflect!

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Supervision, SuccessPatricia JehleFebruary 27, 2023Jehle Coachingstress response, brain farts, burnout, ReflectComment

That in-between (liminal) space

That in-between (liminal) space

That in-between time

It’s hard

Liminal Space is what it is often called

“The word "liminal" comes from the Latin word “limen,” which means threshold. To be in a liminal space means to be on the precipice of something new but not quite there yet. You can be in a liminal space physically, emotionally, or metaphorically. Being in a liminal space can be incredibly uncomfortable for most people.“ – Verywellmind

There are physical liminal spaces: waiting rooms at the doctor’s office, airport terminals, airplanes in flight, hallways, bridges, in the car driving somewhere, and doorways…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleFebruary 20, 2023Jehle Coachingliminal space, waiting, changeComment

Mind changing

Mind changing

Do you want to change someone’s mind?

I am thinking about just that…

What do they want is important

BUT why they want it is more important.

Not only do you need to know your own whys, but finding out their whys is very likely a key to success

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Starting a business, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJanuary 30, 2023Jehle CoachingSuccess, Mindset, Change someone's mind, mind changing, negotiationComment

Be a winner and be positive - especially with regards to others

Be a winner and be positive - especially with regards to others

…“tough-minded optimism” – is a blend of creativity in ideas, strong convictions about what works and about doing things for the “common good”, and resilience, especially when it comes to the need for change. To quote, “The future is not shaped by people who don’t really believe in the future,”…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJanuary 24, 2023Jehle Coachingoptimism, success, tribalism, we-thinking, allaboutusComment

Do what you can - and a Happy Lunar New Year°!

Do what you can - and a Happy Lunar New Year°!

It is what it is … or is it?

What can we control?

What can we influence?

What is out of our control?

What we can control (usually) is my response to what I can influence and what I cannot control.

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleJanuary 18, 2023Jehle Coachingwhat can I control, influence, Sphere of influence, reflectionComment

You can do it - self-efficacy is important for resilience

You can do it - self-efficacy is important for resilience

Self-efficacy is a key part of resilience.

So, what’s your S-E Quotient? Your SE-Q?

Here’s some theory for the nosy part of us all:

Do you know what your Self-Efficacy Quotient is?Well, you should care about it and know generally at what level it is.

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleNovember 28, 2022Jehle Coachingself-efficacy, can do, what I can doComment

Moving Forward and Giving Thanks

Moving Forward and Giving Thanks

How are you moving forward this and next week?

This is, most likely, your last push before the holiday crush and then it’s the holiday break.

So, how do you decide what is most important, next important, etc.

Do you know which activities bring you the most clients/customers, or financial turnover? Do those activities.

The rest of your to-dos can fall away till January.

Make sure your WHY is in the decision-making process, too.

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, Starting a business, SupervisionPatricia JehleNovember 21, 2022Jehle Coaching (Supervision and Consulting)Thanksgiving, PPF Model, moving forward, successComment

Look at your fears and move on to success

Look at your fears and move on to success

Maybe you have all your ducks in a row, but something seems to be stopping you from moving forward? Is there something intangible slowing down your business?

Maybe you have inner conflicts with yourself that need addressing so you can start moving forward again.

A while ago week I read a wonderful book by negotiation expert Professor Dr. William Ury of Harvard Business School called Getting to Yes with Yourself and I found some treasures to help us out of those stuck places in business and in life.

Here’s Ury’s 6-Step Model…

Business Coaching, Change, Coaching, Goals, Growth, Plans, Positive Attitude, Reflection, Success, SupervisionPatricia JehleNovember 16, 2022Jehle Coachingfear, Success, Getting to YesComment