Spring is for new things, new growth and good news!

Are you doing new things? What is your plan for the spring and for the rest of the year?What are your goals – for now, for the spring and for the year?

First, I have updated my webpage (check it out: www.jehle-coaching.com ) and my Goggle Business Page (if you don’t have one, contact me, ASAP!). It’s time for an update and a lot has been happening with my business, both with possibilities for contact (COVID)-wise and what training I have been having and what I can offer.

Also, that weekend away reminded me of what is most important. I need to make time for solitude, reflection AND for creativity.

When we are in a good place, take time to reflect and move forward

Maybe it’s time for solitude and a retreat from everyday life. Maybe it’s best to be alone and think.

When in a difficult place, take time out to reflect, recalibrate, make a plan, and then move forward

Last week I had a lovely time reconnecting with friends, and at the end of the week I went on a silent retreat to reflect on that and what I have been learning these past months.

When have you taken some solitude time to reflect – how long ago was it? How did it help you to think? How did it affect you afterwards, in your life?

What are some benefits of being in quiet for an extended time?

I can reconnect with myself and, as a fellow coaching friend says, “find my voice again”.

I can get creative and do what I want and need in this time.

I get R&R- and can come home re-energized and thankful for what I have and do but there’s much more.

I receive direction and clarity- what’s important to me now, and what will it be like in six months, a year, two years, etc.

I can see where things are going well and build on that and see where changes need to be made, and deal with them.

It is almost February and perhaps you and I should take some time for a reflective check-up. It is important to regularly reflect upon our goals and check our progress to make changes and keep on your chosen course.

First you must ask yourself questions:

· What are my goals (yearly and quarterly) and where am I at regarding them right now? What changes need to be made to reach those goals, or do I need to re-work the goals?

· How am I doing with my work and personal relationships? Where do I need to change here?

· How am I doing with boundaries? Do I have enough time and energy to get my work done and have healthy relationships?

· What am I doing daily for me, for my health and well-being?

· How has my attitude been lately? Do I need an adjustment in attitude? How can that be best achieved?

Let’s look at a few of these topics for the next part of this blog, namely boundaries and “me time”.

What gives you joy?

Start-up and Entrepreneurial coaching gives me joy. Working with C-level leaders that bring jobs and help the local economy gives me much joy. I love to help the leaders and their companies succeed.

My wish for you is that you have MORE of what really counts in this season!

What’s happened for me and Jehle Coaching:

I have been working on my member care and debriefing skills for the past year as well as keeping up my coaching and supervision skills (including conflict resolution and team and group dynamics) with mostly online but also in-person courses.

As we move towards 2022, I am doing some reflection. It helps to bring about change.

I’m reflecting on my situation and accepting for it is, and then doing what I can about it.

Merry Christmas from Jehle Coaching! With a time of personal reflection for you at the end.

2021 has been full and a profitable year for me and for Jehle Coaching.

I hope your year has also been profitable, as well.

We all know the saying: Hurt people HURT people.

But do you know that Healed people HEAL people?

I was told this second phrase last week in a training evening, and I believe it to be true- healed people heal people.

What are you reading?

What are you learning?

I have a friend who regularly greets her friends with the question, “What are you reading?”

This is one of my favorite questions because it assumes that the person is a learner and a reader.

I think we should be both. So, the second question that goes with the first is “What are you learning?”

That really leads to pre-questions:

· Why are you reading these books?

· What books are next in line?

· What are your goals?

· What books and articles are you reading that lead you to your goals?

Use your strengths to work on your weaknesses

When you know your strengths, go in the opposite direction for growth. That means gently pushing towards your weaknesses, using your strengths as your basis, as your foundation.

For example, if you are big on doing things right all the time, allow yourself some slack but also keep doing (most things) right. OR- if you want to grow in your relationships and you are good at listening, try sharing and being more vulnerable for growth, at the same time, still asking good questions and practicing active listening.

A slash is someone who has more than one career and usually at the same time, and who perhaps has made a second career out of a hobby or passion.

A slash can transition you from one stage in life to another or it can accompany your other career through most of your life.

We have had a ton of change

Some is easier than other kinds of change

When you are leaving home – for good

This blog repeats posting, especially in light of the Afghanistan (and possibly other upcoming) refugee situation.

I was in the USA and had had the opportunity of flying on a very special flight to Chicago.

Lessons learned

I can learn from this man; we all can.

He had already been able to overcome what seems insurmountable barriers, make important, if still very hard, decisions, and continue on his way to a new solution, a new place.

He had few illusions to the difficulties he would face ahead, but he believed that there was opportunity ahead and only death and destruction behind. He knew that his future was and still is in his hands and he had taken the responsibility seriously.

Healed people Heal people

So, what are you going to do? Join the grumpies and the people who yell, troll, and/or write nasty emails and even publicly “expose” people?

Are you going to be people who say, “I am going to hide in my hole till the mess is over”? It’s never over.

Or

Are we going to help people by looking for the best in others and to accept our personal responsibility for our hurtful ways, asking forgiveness and then moving on to better ways?

We can only change ourselves and our attitudes.

How is happiness attained?

1. In a job well-done (and if at all possible, within the time and financial constraints)

2. In (finally) reaching a goal

But also in:

· Healthy activity for mind, body and soul (and all the underlying goals to be reached)

· Good (safe, fun, reliable) relationships where I can be myself and share myself

· Doing good to others, especially “strangers” (no kidding!)

· Being grateful for the past, savoring the present and looking to the future with hope

· Being happy about your job and what that job contributes to “the greater good”

Ury’s 6-Step Model:

1. Put yourself in your own shoes

2. Develop your inner BATNA

3. Reframe your picture of the situation

4. Stay in the Zone

5. Respect them, even if…

6. Give and Receive

How are you getting ready for the fall?

Are your emails paired down and ready for responses? Do you code/color-code them for “triage” and potential clients?

What about your to-do list(s)? Do you keep your old lists to make sure you haven’t out something under the pile of papers for too long?

What is your calendar like?

Downsizing at the beginning of the fall/school year is a god thing (I will be doing this later, but for us here in the Argovian countryside, school began this morning).

Sometimes it’s time to downsize and also to look in new directions in our life. Maybe it’s time to make a list or two to remember what’s really important.

Transition(s) and Change(s)

Make for Loss

Which has to be grieved

There’s been a lot going on for most of us since March 2020. We’ve experienced extreme loss and change; we have hopefully grieved each of these losses well so that we can move on.

Change equals loss

In conflict and stressful situations…

When you say, write or do something you want to take back, what can you do?

Be humble

Admit your fault

Apologize sincerely

Start again anew

All this is good, but it may not change long-instilled negative patters.

When you want learn to change your negative responses, what can you do? You can STOP and be SOBER.

Gen Z

Zoomer

Post Millennial—

· Ambitious, Digital Natives, Content-oriented

· Like comfort and flexibility

· Curious and open

· Socially and politically aware and active (but not in traditional ways)

· Start-ups and side hustles are the name of the game (and financial independence is the goal)

· Want their freedom

Does this fit your picture of the Zoomers you know?