You are looking for that particular someone.
Or you are looking for “your People”.
Or you are looking for a coach, a counsellor, a mentor, …
How do you choose and what do you look for?
How do you know that they are trustworthy?
This is important for any business or other relationship: TRUST!
Research has shown that mutually supportive relationships are key to stress reduction and resilience.
Read MoreStress is “fought” best by being resilient.
How resilient are you?
Resilience has a lot of factors, and one is focusing on your strengths (not your weaknesses).
What is your superpower?
Read MoreThere is a time when your stress level tips. Then the stress begins to hurt your body.
What is that bad stress and what can you do about it?
Read MoreAre you stressed? It is normal and CAN be a good thing!
Stress is a normal part of life and without it you really would not get anything done.
Those deadlines (unless there are too many all at once) are actually helpful.
Even having a visitor over can stress you enough to finally pick up and clean a bit.
Stress can also tell you what is important in your life.
What you value can stress you out – this is important to know!
I have a friend who often says, “I don’t care anymore.” But of course, she does.
The stress you have can point to what you care about (often what you care about most). This a good place to start (and end): reflection! What do you value?
Read MoreResilience is what you need to help prevent burnout. It is a key to thriving, even if you are underwater and the to-do list keeps getting longer.
So, what really helps you get up and keep on going when something happens that is a set-back, whether big or small? What makes you resilient?
You’d be surprised.
Read MoreMondays are my days to get organized and productive.
Fridays are the days I plan the following week. Then I try and shut down for the weekend but sometimes I do work on a Saturday. I even gave a presentation yesterday on mentoring, but that was an exception.
This Friday/Monday rhythm of planning and preparation helps me to be more intentional with my tasks and not let my tasks manage me.
How do you stay productive, not doing something that is on the list, but getting really important tasks done – without burning yourself out?
Read MoreMaybe you are enjoying the spring flowers, the extended days of light hours, the birds singing.
Happy Spring!
Maybe you are frustrated with the rain and mud.
Believe me, it is muddy in my garden!
Maybe there is even more involved with your emotions. Maybe they are still as dark as night… or just very gray…
Have you got the spring blues? Are you tired and ready to scream? Try my Past, Present Future Model (PPF)to reflect and change your attitude for the better.
Read MoreSometimes we are triggered. Stress and certain situations can trigger us. Sometimes the triggers come from childhood, or we want to protect ourselves.
This is where the infamous fight, flight, freeze or faun reactions come from.
Yesterday I watched a few triggered people react and , although it is not fun, it can help us learn about ourselves and do better next time.
I was also triggered and was able to keep calm and process it later with a safe person. For that I am grateful.
You also have triggers.
The question is: are you able to process your triggers and how do you do it?
The first step is personal awareness.
Read MoreAre you underwater, swimming, resurfacing, or on a raft relaxing?
I am resurfacing from an extremely busy few weeks. I knew it would be that way and I was prepared.
What about you? How do you prepare?
What are you telling yourself?
Is it positive and helpful or critical?
Read MoreDo what you CAN
Are you overwhelmed?
What is your H.I.T. list and what is your most important thing(s)
A while ago I got together with coaching and supervision colleagues and I was reminded of one of my favorite (negotiation and decision) interventions: The H.I.T. list, where you have three questions:
· What is your Have-to-have?
· What do your Intend (or would like) to have? And
· What can (or must) you Trade ( or give up) to get your Have-to-have (for sure) and possibly your Intend to have? It could be that your intend to haves have to wait right now, because you do not have ANY time.
Read MoreAre you in need of a coach, but wonder if they can really help you?
Or have you had a coach but been disappointed by the price and the results?
Many of you look for a coach when there is some sort of crisis and maybe you are rash in choosing a “package” or adding on after a freebie coach bot…
As usual, “Buyer, be aware!”
What is your need and what do you want to accomplish is the first thing.
Read MoreRecently I watched a TEDx talk by Esther van Fenema on limiting our freedom for health and happiness. How do we limit these bad choices we consistently make so we CAN be happier and healthier?
Ms. van Fenema said that four out of 10 cancers are cause by an unhealthy lifestyle (why do we still soke?) and she said that 45% of cardiovascular disease is caused by an unhealthy (sedentary and eating the wrong food) lifestyle.
But how do we change? Is it MIND over matter – yes, AND there is more. I have been reading a few books and neuroscience says that we also must engage our HARE brain for change. That is the fast part that we cannot just think our way into.
Read MoreSupervision comes from the idea of the Latin: super = over and vision = see, but not in the idea of a boss or as someone who has control, but as someone who sees outside of the regular situation, who can help you reflect on your professional work and on processes. It is someone who helps you see your (good and unhelpful) working and thinking patterns and helps you to move away from the unhelpful activities in your work and life.
A supervisor has your professional and personal development as part of the “job”. Supervision helps individuals, teams, groups and organizations reflect on their job-related actions and structures and thus supports and enhances development. Supervisors support the processing of job-related problems and tasks in order to promote solutions, changes and professionalization. Supervision helps individuals, teams, groups and organizations reflect on their job-related actions and structures and thus supports and enhances development. Supervisors support the processing of job-related problems and tasks in order to promote solutions, changes and professionalization.
Read MoreIt’s almost February and maybe you feel great about how the year is shaping up. Maybe your goals have been set and you have reached a first milestone. Maybe you have planned your holidays, shopped the sales for the necessities and are sitting ready for a great Lenten season of listening and reflecting.
Or maybe not…
Read MoreTaking a break – if Brené Brown can do it, so will I.
It has been a very busy time for me, as I am sure for you! As of now, and until January 22nd, 2024, I am pretty much not available, not for clients, nor for other work. If you reach out to me for dates as of the 22nd or later in 2024, I am very happy to reply, but it may take a day or two (not counting holidays and Sundays) to reply.
I will be doing something special activities and if you want to know, you may also reach out to me. I may even write about it next year.
Until I write again, I wish you much joy this holiday season!
Read MoreHappy Holidays! Here is part of the Jehle Coaching Annual Report: I am looking for two (maximum) MORE/NEW clients in February 2024 (and some additional training days here and there)
At this very moment in December and through January, I am full-up and cannot take any new clients. But as of the end of January I will have more space as I only each one class, so very soon I will be able to make space and time for new clients.
Read MoreIt is what it is … or is it?
What can we control?
What can we influence?
What is out of our control?
What we can control (usually) is my response to what I can influence and what I cannot control.
Read MoreI have been thinking a lot about stress and trauma. Part of that has to do with two books I have been reading: The Mindful Body by Ellen Langer and The Myth of Normal by Gabor and Daniel Maté , who our EASC Vice President recommended recently - both books address these and some other issues. The other reason I have been thinking about trauma is that the EASC had an “It’s EASC Time” led by Daniela Finkelstein about this topic on November 15th.
Read MoreI have been thinking a lot about stress and trauma. Part of that has to do with two books I have been reading and other reason is that my coaching organization, EASC, had an online meeting about this topic last week at our monthly online meeting.
Read MoreRecently my thoughts have been inundated with elephants- on the internet there is a cute baby elephant chasing birds, for example and my daughter loves it. The metaphors using elephants are also in my face these days, namely eating elephants and elephants in “living rooms”.
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