Changing your perspective on stress and negative emotions will help you be healthier. How you SEE things is really a game changer. How you see your situation and your stress can be the path to ill health OR a path towards resilience and SUCCESS!
I have a few clients with long term stress.
It happens to all of us, and for some it is a “given”.
Read MoreAre you underwater, swimming, resurfacing, or on a raft relaxing?
I am resurfacing from an extremely busy few weeks. I knew it would be that way and I was prepared.
What about you? How do you prepare?
What are you telling yourself?
Is it positive and helpful or critical?
Read MoreIt’s almost February and maybe you feel great about how the year is shaping up. Maybe your goals have been set and you have reached a first milestone. Maybe you have planned your holidays, shopped the sales for the necessities and are sitting ready for a great Lenten season of listening and reflecting.
Or maybe not…
Read MoreBesides taking care of your body, there are three (plus one) other things we can learn to do more: be grateful, savor the present moment (and be mindful), and have a positive hope for the future. (Those PPFs, again!)
The “plus one” is having a few close relationships.
Read MoreDo what you can, and then turn your focus away from what you can’t. It helps with worry, which is not at all helpful.
This works for most instances, especially for work. You can also think about how to work when things seem stuck…
Read MoreGot time for holidays? Or has work got all your time? Take a break off from work before work breaks you!
Skipping your 2023 vacation because you have too much to do?
I once read an article about how someone was guilted by her boss into not taking her vacation time. In the end the stress from work took its toll and, no, people didn’t get burned-out. The company went under. No joke.
Read MoreSummer is a lovely time of great weather, outdoor and water sports, vacations, music festivals, barbeques, weddings, soirées and general fun. But one can get distracted in the middle of the fun and forget our business – and life goals. We need an easy way to keep on track when we are trying to focus.
Read MoreThere are many ways to prevent burnout and to increase resilience. Increasing resilience.
Usually it starts with a wee “no”.
Maybe you even still must “do it”, but hopefully your boss or co-worker has finally heard that you actually do not want to do something. Maybe they will think a second time before just assuming you will do that thing.
Read MoreChecking off that to-do list fast enough?
I am chugging through my list, but must remember the BIGGER things, too.
Like making time for work (and personal) reflection.
Like preparing for a talk on connection, communication (and, of course, conflict)
Like writing (and reading)
Like preparing next year’s school lectures
How do you plan on getting things done?
Do you make time for reflection – at the end of the day, at the end/beginning of the week, at the end of the month and year?
But in the end, keeping one word in my “view” at all times, really helps me get things done - maybe it will help you, too!
Read MoreDo you want to change someone’s mind?
I am thinking about just that…
What do they want is important
BUT why they want it is more important.
Not only do you need to know your own whys, but finding out their whys is very likely a key to success
Read MoreMaybe you have all your ducks in a row, but something seems to be stopping you from moving forward? Is there something intangible slowing down your business?
Maybe you have inner conflicts with yourself that need addressing so you can start moving forward again.
A while ago week I read a wonderful book by negotiation expert Professor Dr. William Ury of Harvard Business School called Getting to Yes with Yourself and I found some treasures to help us out of those stuck places in business and in life.
Here’s Ury’s 6-Step Model…
Read MoreLet’s consider success:
What do you want, really?
Will it be the same in five years? In ten? Fifteen? Twenty years?
How do those answers to the first question help you to make your decision about your next steps?
What will you value when you are 45? 50? 55? 60? …?
But back to the question: what do you really want?
Do you need or want to start something new?
There are some steps involved in the process, even before something new becomes “a THING”.
To be successful, here are some points to think about.
· Make mistakes and learn
· Do something new and learn
· Own what you do
· It’s all about your development as a human being
· Keep on being your responsible authentic self
· Remember it’s all about community and adding value to the “world”
Read MoreAre you too focused on the past?
Do you focus on the future too much?
Where is your energy spent?
Are you able to savor and be grateful for the present situation?
When the future can overshadow the present, positive or negative, you are missing out.
When the past does the same you are missing out.
Savor the present, too! Be grateful.
Read MoreDo you need or want to start something new? There are some steps involved in the process, even before it becomes “a THING”. To be successful, I suggest the following steps and ideas.
Read MoreWe all need to keep “fresh” and grow.
But not every attempt at a change is successful. Some are, of course, failures.
Failure is the next step towards success. Those “blips” I consider “learning events” when we take the time to reflect and learn from the situation.
You can change, too.
Read MoreSummer is a wonderful time to celebrate. The nights are long and the temperatures not too hot (in the evenings).
Celebration is an important part of life – and success.
When you celebrate something, you give it weight and consider it special. So, I ask again, what are you celebrating?
People who celebrate and who are grateful, in general, are healthier and happier than the negative crowd. Research says it, not just me.
Read MoreIt’s now proven that stressed employees cannot produce as well as rested and relaxed employees. Everyone seems to know this fact, so why are so many bosses still expecting their workers to keep their phones on and return to work early from vacation? Companies suffer when people do not get holidays, as the company that closed down clearly shows.
The temptation is very high to keep on working, even if you have planned holidays
Many of us, whether pressured from the boss or not, are tempted to skip our summer holidays, or, at least, check our work emails frequently while at the beach or in the hotel. Some bosses expect this, and, after all, nobody wants 1,000 emails to go back to work to.
Read MoreI have just had a holiday. It’s been great, but at least for me, returning to the job can sometimes be difficult. Returning to work can be emotionally - and even physically difficult, especially if you have really had a mental break from your every-day schedule, as I have had. It can feel like you are a deep-sea diver coming to the surface again, facing a foreign world from where you have recently been. Resurfacing and getting back in the saddle, to mix some metaphors, are tough.
Start on a Wednesday, or even Thursday- or do a “fun” thing first
I restarted last Thursday.
Make your first work-week lighter by only working a few days, or perhaps schedule something “fun” first, such as a training day, or a team building day where you have no choice but to ignore your email list. This time I only focused on the deadlines
Read MoreHow are you getting ready for the fall?
Are your emails paired down and ready for responses? Do you code/color-code them for “triage” and potential clients?
What about your to-do list(s)? Do you keep your old lists to make sure you haven’t out something under the pile of papers for too long?
What is your calendar like?
Read MoreWhen we make good choices, we want to be aware of our biases and think more clearly. Here are ideas to make better decisions:
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